💛 CONTROL IN RELATIONSHIPS 💛

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When there's control in a relationship, there's no connection, only seperation. 

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The need to control can have many reasons. Maybe you weren't allowed to be yourself as a child. Maybe your boundaries were violated. Maybe you decided you had to control the other person before they control you..

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When you try to control in a relationship, you see yourself seperate from the other person. You see them the enemy rather than your partner. You try to mold them into who you think they should be and what they should do.

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Then the other person gets angry, upset or might even leave because you're not allowing that person to be truly who they are.. 

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You might go into this super independant mode of doing everything on your own, because the other person might slow you down, because they're different, because they're not like you and they won't get you.. So it's better off to do it on your own.

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But the truth is, you're in this together. Once you work with your differences rather than against your differences, things become much easier. Once you let go and surrender, there is more love, intimacy and joy.

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Here's how you can move from control to surrender:

- Notice your immediate reaction of wanting to control when it comes up. Just become aware of it.

- Notice what behaviour the need to control pushing you to do.

- See what might happen if you do that

- Imagining you're empty and free from anything, feel the love you have for this person.

- Then ask, 'What's my next step to come back to this love?'

- Do that 😉

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It's actually just a choice in the end of the day. It is choosing either love or seperation. 

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Try this out and see how it goes for yourself. Would love to hear the outcome 🙏🏼

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In which situations do you find yourself wanting to control? Comment below if you feel drawn to it ☺️💙

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Much love to you! 💛

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