✋🏼 DON’T EVER DO THAT TO ANY WOMEN EVER AGAIN ✋🏼

This might not be a comfortable post to read. I want to share something that happened a few weeks ago because it’s important.

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I was on the tube and I sat next to a guy who was sitting his legs wide spread, I sat normally my legs touching his as he was taking up the space in my seat. I forgot about it, put on my earphones and started listening to some music.

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A minute or so later, he started to rub his leg against mine very slowly to the point I think he assumed I wasn’t going to notice. I noticed it, obviously. I didn’t say anything, shocked how he can do such thing in public.

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Then he stopped. After a while he did the same thing again while the tube was moving. I said to myself, ‘Ok, if he does it again, I’m going to say something.’ He did it again. 

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I took a deep breath and I took out my earphones. As I did that, he immediately took his leg away and got uncomfortable. I turned my head to face him and asked, “What are you doing with your leg?” He looked away. I carried on looking at him breathing deeply. I said very calmly and slowly, “You know what you did. Don’t ever do that to any woman ever again.” 

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I turned my face forward, put back my earphones on and carried on listening to music. He kept his legs within where his seat was. Two stops later it was my stop, I got off feeling slightly paranoid he might follow me, he didn’t.

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As I got off, I thought how if this has happened to me, it must happen to so many women as well. So many times that maybe women don’t share it, feeling ashamed, scared or unsafe. Also not knowing, what to do in this kind of situation. 

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If you ever find yourself in a situation like this, here are some steps for you:

- Take 5 deep breaths, stay in your body. 

- Imagine you’re sending the breath to your centre, strengthening your core. Keep breathing.

- Notice what feels true to do, sometimes it’s saying something, sometimes it’s removing yourself etc . Whatever it is, don’t endure. You don’t have to tolerate what you don’t want.

- Breathe into your heart space. Now, if you want to say something, say it with presence and power coming from your heart space. Turn your anger into power that goes into your words so they can receive your words rather than shutting down or attacking back. You have as much strength and power as this person infront of you, if not more emotional strength and power.

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The truth is if you ever find yourself in a situation like this, it doesn’t mean anything about you. Know that no human would want to hurt or prey on other human unless they’re in pain or feeling hurt themselves. Saying that, it doesn’t make what they did right either. Of course it’s not right. 

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Not saying anything keeps this behaviour going. Even the slight “it’s ok, no big deal, happens all the time” is worth mentioning coming from fierce love, not from attacking. You have the ability to stop it. You are saying no, not just for yourself but for other women this person might go and do the same thing to.

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Your words and presence carry power. Use them 🔥

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I hope this post has given you something to reflect on today. Feel free to comment or share 🙏🏼

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Loads of love to you ❤️

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