❤️ HOW TO NOT LOOSE YOURSELF IN RELATIONSHIPS ❤️

Loosing yourself in relationships can stem from needing approval from the other person. 

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In other words, giving your power away to the other person where they end up dictating your reality even with their minor actions.

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This doesn’t have to be your reality.

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I lost myself in relationship many times.

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I didn’t know how to speak my truth, express what I desired, put healthy boundaries or felt like myself in a connection for a long time.

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Over the last 5 years, I changed this. I’m always learning of course and every now and then, I get tested around putting boundaries and speaking my truth to men. So I move through that as gracefully as I can 😃

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A simple and powerful question you can ask yourself to bring your energy back to yourself as a starting point is:

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✨ What do I want? ✨

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And follow that. Express that. Whatever you desire, you can have it.

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Don’t give up who you are and what you desire in order to be with someone. That’s not going to go down well.

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It can be simple. It honestly doesn’t have to be complicated. 

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We work around this in my 1-1 coaching sessions. How to speak your truth, be yourself, be in your truth while you’re sharing intimacy with someone. How to also be vulnerable and open your heart ❤️

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Here’s what my client shared after us working together over the course of 4 months around relationships 👇🏼

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“The thing I needed was to connect with myself, which is not what I knew when I first began.

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I was in a sad place and was looking for ways to help me not lose myself anymore in relationships.

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My breakthroughs from the sessions were finding myself, letting go of people I cannot control, being able to cry and feeling like I can view men as not the enemy who hate women but souls with their own vulnerabilities too. 

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But largely it was connecting with myself, knowing my ‘inner voice’ is someone that needs to be heard and used as a vital part of myself to keep me aware when I know things are not right. Knowing where my authentic self is, who she is was huge for me.

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I had one situation where I allowed myself to be vulnerable with a couple of friends. One held me when I cried, the other cried with me and announced how much she understood my sadness. Something I had never done before in my life.

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Enjoy the freedom the session will give you. Use them to really open up, feel vulnerable and free in a safe environment because it is here with Isik with her ability to connect, her warm personality and maturity for someone so young. It’s not like losing control, it is like being let free. Isik has the ability to help you find ways to see what is going on inside yourself, through talking and through using meditation techniques.”

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If you’re interested in working with me through 1-1 coaching, just message me. Ask me any questions you might have ❤️

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Your past in relationships doesn’t have to be your future. You can change that. I’m a living example of that. If I made that change, so can you ✨

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