✨ ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL ✨

I had a really good cry last night.

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I missed my dad a lot and the time we had together. I thought about the last time I spoke to him and our last holiday together.
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When you really allow yourself to grieve, to miss a passed loved one, there’s a point you reach where you’re not scared of feeling anymore.
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You stop fighting.
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You’re there with an open heart.
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Willing to feel, willing to surrender.
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Resisting feeling the pain takes more energy than feeling the actual pain.
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Feeling the pain or the emotion is actually ok.
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It’s often the Ego’s judgement of it that puts a meaning on it.
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You’re sad - meaning you’re broken. You’re angry - meaning there’s something wrong with you.
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None of that is true.
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We don’t get educated around how to feel in a healthy way. We’re often not taught how to actually be really honest with ourselves, be vulnerable and open our hearts to welcome it all.
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When you feel it all, grief turns into gratitude. Sadness turns into joy. Loneliness turns into love. Darkness turns into light.
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Grief doesn’t have a timeline. Neither do memories. When you close your eyes and imagine you’re in the memory, it doesn’t feel like 10 years ago, it feels like now.
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You could be grieving someone you lost 5 years ago or 20 years ago. There’s nothing wrong with you and you’re not alone ❤️
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It’s absolutely natural and part of being human.
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This is just something that is generally not openly spoken about.
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I always feel better and lighter after I allow myself to feel something fully. So now I trust, the deeper I go into the darkness, the higher I’ll come out into the light.
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If you look at me and see me as someone who is light and shines bright, this is why.
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I go into the darkness and go “Ok show me” ready to face whatever’s there to then come out from the other side and be all love and light again 😄
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.✨ HERE’S HOW YOU FEEL FULLY👇🏼
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If you’re feeling sadness or grief bubbling up inside you, create a space for yourself to allow yourself to feel for the next 30 minutes without distractions.
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This is not to feel sorry for yourself, but to feel and let go. It’s super empowering to hold space for yourself 🤘🏼
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I have a Grief playlist on my Spotify. If you go to Isik Tlabar on Spotify, you’ll find it. Put that on.
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Sit up on your bed, close your eyes and take deep breaths in. Move your upper body in circles.
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If you feel like you don’t want to cry, make aaaa sounds to help you get it out. Hit pillows if you feel anger’s there.
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In the end, lay on your side and rest for a bit. Hold yourself and let yourself know you’re there for yourself. You got your back 🙏🏼
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You’re never ever alone 💞
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I love you so so much 😍
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