🔥 THE STORIES WE TELL OURSELVES 🔥
I had a tutor when I was around 10-14 years old. She helped me prepare for high school entrance exams in Istanbul.
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She’s a really good friend/big sister now. I always see her when I go back to Turkey.
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We met up while I was there and started talking about feeling powerless, having people in your space, boundaries etc.
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My memories are divided in two - before UK and after moving to the UK. I often don’t remember much about before. It starts to come back when I’m there.
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I was talking about feeling controlled and powerless etc. She started telling me all the times I was in my power as a little girl.
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How I spoke my mind to the teacher and pissed him off.
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How I left this major exam, had an emotional breakdown, went back in, continued and still got a great result.
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How I prepared food for my tutor like a grown up when she came over.
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And many more memories 🙏🏼
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It was really weird because what she shared and what I remember from my memory were two different stories. I was in awe.
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We all have a core wound. What our Ego does is it holds onto the memories that prove that wound.
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It lets go of the rest because they don’t hold importance for your Ego.
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Mine is - I’m powerless. Others have the power, I don’t.
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Yours might be:
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✨ I am not worthy
✨ I’m not good enough
✨ I don’t belong
✨ I have to control myself/others/the world
✨ I can’t trust myself/others/the world
✨ I don’t have the capacity
✨ I’m not allowed to be capable
✨ I’m powerless
✨ I have to be perfect
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We all have them obviously, but we have one that is the deepest and most painful vein.
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And off goes your Ego to prove that belief over and over again.
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So how do you get out of that cycle?
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You meet up with old friends like I did 😂
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That helps, but not really.
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Here are the steps you can go through to change from the story to the truth:
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- Close your eyes. Take 3 deep breaths.
- Bring your awareness to a time you felt the pain of this belief strongly.
- Be with it, feel it all. Notice what stories you made up. Keep breathing and allowing.
- After the feeling is complete, imagine a golden ball of light above your head. It descends onto your head and lights up your whole body. You’re connected to everything through all time and space.
- Imagine you see the memory from a higher perspective, from this point of view.
- What’s the truth? What was really going on? What’s obvious from this point of view?
- Now go down and tell that to the younger self and remind them who they really are.
- Repeat as needed 🤗
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My point is:
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More than half of our memories might not be true. Question them.
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See if you took out the true bits to create congruency in the story you tell yourself to keep yourself stuck in the pain of the past.
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None of it is real. They’re all stories.
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Hope you enjoyed mine 😄
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Then remind you of your truth, your essence and your greatness ✨
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I can share my story and my messy bits with ease because I know that’s not who I am. That’s my Ego. And I totally own it.
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Who I am is so much more. It’s so much more than what I do, how I feel or the way I choose to live my life.
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It’s something that can’t be contained and defined in any way.
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So are you.
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You’re amazing and incredible in every way 🙏🏼
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Love you 💛
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