❤️ 5 LESSONS I TOOK AWAY FROM LOVE IS BLIND ❤️

I’m a bit late on this, but here it is 😄 

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I watched the new Netflix series called “Love is Blind” few months ago.

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It’s a social experiment where men and women go on dates in seperate pods without even seeing each other. They can only talk to one another through a thin wall. 

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So they build an emotional connection before building a physical one. When they propose to each other through a wall and get engaged, it’s only then they get to see each other which is just crazy 😄

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Then they go off on a holiday, move in together, meet their parents, plan the wedding and get married - all within a month!

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I really enjoyed watching it because you could see how everyone’s egoic patterns were playing out as everything was speeded up.

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Here are the 5 lessons I took away from it:

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1️⃣ THE HONEYMOON PHASE IS AN ILLUSION

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The couples were going into relationships completely projecting what they wanted without really seeing who the other person was. 

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They thought the other person was an accurate representation of that when in reality, they were far from it. 

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2️⃣ CONFLICT RESOLUTION IS SO IMPORTANT

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There were moments when the couples argued and it was like a little boy and girl shouting at each other through their wounds. Creating a container where both sides first feel heard and to then resolve is soooo important. 

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Something like - “I’m experiencing something coming up for me about X. May I share it with you? My intention is to express, hear your side, clear and come back to love.” 

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This lets the other person know you’re about to drop a bomb but its not about them, it’s your wound 🙏🏼

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3️⃣ YOUR STUFF IS GOING TO COME UP IN RELATIONSHIPS

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I loved when one of the women said they self sabotage. I was like - LOL who doesn’t? At least she knows 😂

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Knowing your stuff is going to come up and even expecting it would be a great starting point. It was a bit funny when the couples argued as if a trigger was a condition that shouldn’t exist. This can happen often, someone not sharing their truth to not rock the boat. 

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No mate, rock that boat and clear it out otherwise it’s a ping pong ball you’re trying to keep underneath the water, it’s going to pop out 😄

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4️⃣ YOU COMPLETE ME IS A LIE 

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There was a big emphasis on how the other person completed them. 

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This first assumes that you’re not whole as you are. Then the Ego goes onto completing yourself meaning you’re looking out from the filter of your wound. 

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You’re not coming from a place of your heart’s true desire and seeing everyone you meet as - omg they’re the one! 😄

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5️⃣ YOUR PAST DOESN’T DEFINE YOUR FUTURE

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There were two couples who just couldn’t let go their past way of being in relationships that actually didn’t serve them. 

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They were holding onto what they knew from the past and really struggling to move on and receive the magic that is currently presented in their reality.

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True intimacy requires vulnerability with an open heart, direct communication and listening 🙏🏼

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Intimate relationships are a deep journey into one another that can be either Heaven on Earth or Hell on Earth while flipping in between in a matter of seconds 😂

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And if you’re open, you can always learn even from the most cringey thing you watched 😄

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Love you 💛

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Image by @minzo.king

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